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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 : f$ m5 T0 C$ [. G
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的,和家长弄是不矛盾的,美好记忆完全可以更多一点,没有必要限制,只要精力和财力允许,完全可以办生日会,生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的, ...# w$ m! L* V$ S) q1 }; r3 c
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 $ |1 c! F \1 u- g# F9 D6 H
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气,因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力,父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力,而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准,一个月9个生日,180元礼品预算,承受不起的家庭,是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动?% T; S# w3 F& R1 Q# `
; V4 K I0 ~6 D我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比,但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情,有悖我的教育观念。! U$ j, E+ N. L
8 J( ^4 R5 }, P另外,我搜了一下,中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好,http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的,为什么当前的生日会是不良风气,有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题,提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举' ~/ }0 i( M' ^$ {" N. b C M
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For Kids:
7 L+ `! b% ~/ dNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. x7 U; x8 G* x& u' \
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.# `' Z9 {. `! D/ q. j+ K- \& L# y) j
They are overindulged by too many presents. ; t- M$ o$ ?/ V. M
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
/ E/ o9 y' }: X2 _5 M9 \# ^$ dThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
3 ]( A: w: o. ^ ^$ o- Z They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
+ h, i4 \9 }0 n- @& k" U Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.3 G; A# R4 j- M
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For Parents: % m. a) h7 ^7 v* C* A
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.5 F9 \3 P4 O" C3 [4 U
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. + l9 p: w" C0 @+ a+ J
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. ) E+ U& F2 D9 O2 ]' o, R
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up." u$ _: U4 i5 L7 ?
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.& m( H/ a) B6 \( S. U! k+ X
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
5 j% s. o; O. y( eThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
& \( Z/ b5 F* h- c) u2 ^: k, C+ UThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.3 F. J9 I/ b0 M# n* [
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" J: ^4 G8 x, M9 J6 C7 OThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
& ?" j) w2 z1 A8 R( lA too much stuff culture " S; i2 h, \/ @2 Z6 F/ M/ Z
A me first culture6 C @5 o( ~" m: v, I
A trash and waste culture- \0 t4 H9 M9 b2 c! e1 Q
An entitlement culture
! v" ~+ A. F: ^+ w u+ o' w7 NA envy culture
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